All About Love

  • Post By Shidoo Tarkaa 9:42pm on Sunday 10th February 2019

We are back to this interesting column which talks All About Love. Shidoo Tarkaa returns with familiar issue but from a more interesting angle. Are you crushing on someone? Do you think someone is cru

By Shidoo Tarkaa


What to do when you have a crush...


It’s truly been a while on "All about love".  Alright, all we do on this column is talk about your love, our love relationships. You guys already know I have a crush on you right? Smiles... Well a lot of people have "crushes", certain people they have "a thing" for. I remember while growing up I had this crush on a young man, actually a family friend of ours but guess what, when I grew and met this young man, all those feelings were gone even when we tried having a relationship it didn't work because all those feelings were truly gone and I asked myself what went wrong?



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Today, we look at how to handle having a crush on someone and here are a few tips I feel will help you out:

  •  Don’t Rush It Before They Notice You: Let’s face it, it takes time to get used to someone and not consider them as a stranger anymore, and it takes time to understand someone’s personality. What if you have a crush on somebody that it’s not a good fit for you? I am not saying that you need to keep delaying the time waiting for the right moment, because “the right moment” might never come.

However, when you make sure that at least the other person has seen you before or you have had some spontaneous interactions, your next step won’t be a surprise to them and your chances to succeed will be higher.

Otherwise, they will be like; what! When! How! Who are you? Excuse me?


-Eyes Never Lie: Eyes are a mirror of the soul and the heart. Unless the person you are interested in is an actor or has a very high emotional intelligence (EQ), their eyes can’t disguise their feelings. Paying attention to this detail may be the most crucial key to evaluate your options.


- Don’t Overthink Every Interaction You Have: “Oh, he smiled at me, he must be in love." He must as well be in lust or nothing at all.

Despite endless small interactions that could happen and some of it could be an expression of interests, you shouldn’t let your crush become an unhealthy obsession. It could take over your life and make you perform poorly in other tasks like work and study, or it could also affect your relationships with friends and family


- Save Your Time: Once you show your crush interest, the good news is that you have saved your time. The bad news you’ve got to deal with one of these two situations and both are hard to manage:


Either the person has mutual feelings and you will start to get to know each other on a deeper level, or you get negative vibes. Consequently, you have to deal with it. Any answer different than yes we should, sure or something similar, you should consider as a NO. Naturally, a person who is interested in you will find a way to let you know sooner or later.

If you don’t move on, you will get fried with your thoughts. Stay away from your crush, a huge NO for a friend zone. It’s not because your crush is not a nice person. They are just not the right person for you at that time. If you stick around, you will be suffering every day, and you won’t be able to forget about them; you will get classified as a friend, and in case one day for some reasons they are ready for a new experience it will be indeed with someone else, not you.

Finally, instead of losing yourself in them, focus on yourself. You will have a chance to find a new hobby, define the people you are compatible with, improve some points in your personality, style or social circle and improve communication skills.

But firstly, you know you should let them know right? Smiles.

See you next time!


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